How have people reacted to you taking weightloss drugs?

cheaperseeker said:


I don't think it has to mean they were never your friend. People are complex and multifaceted. They can be your friend and feel better about themselves because of how you look.

Once you've been thin for a while, they'll either get used to it, or drift away. That's when you'll know if they were only in it for the confidence boost.

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I'd say 95% of the time, in my experience anyway, when having you around no longer benefits them either because of insecurity or financial reasons, they show their true selves and take themselves out of your life. Ideally by slow fade, but usually in the form of a bonfire. In my teens, 20s and 30s, I was so desperate to be liked and accepted, that I tolerated being used and a lot of other nonsense. Somewhere between growing the set I needed to leave my marriage and recovering from my year of surgeries in 2021/2022, a switch flipped and I will tolerate NOTHING now. Like, one perceived slight and you'll never see me again.
 
I try to be as transparent and helpful about it as I can be, have not had anyone being (openly) judgmental. Have had plenty of people calling me crazy for injecting untested chinese peptides (which personally I think is a pretty fair reaction). Have also gotten a number of people receptive and interested and starting their journey.
 
randompersonrandom said:


She must have sobered up or gone to bed. WISE CHOICE.

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vultures are no longer what they used to be. Now they think they can be owls.

domin8brix said:


a switch flipped and I will tolerate NOTHING now. Like, one perceived slight and you'll never see me again

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For a moment, I thought you were going to pull out a wallet that had the initials BMF on it and quote Ezekiel 25:17.
 
Smiter said:


vultures are no longer what they used to be. Now they think they can be owls.

For a moment, I thought you were going to pull out a wallet that had the initials BMF on it and quote Ezekiel 25:17.

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I am atheist so if I start talking about bible verses I've been possessed by some demon.
 
BNLFL said:


I call it assbook, and have never had a FB account. My wife does and she used it to stay in touch with family. She has 6 siblings all over the US. She hasn't been on in since she retired a year or so ago. Now they group chat on the phone. They had me in there, but made them take me off. Damn phone would go off constant when they started going.

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I honestly really love Facebook; it lets me sort of keep myself available to so many people I genuinely like and show what I'm working on or what neat things I saw, and keeps me up to date on what's going on WITH people I genuinely like. The trick for me has been to use it ONLY for those things. And with a very few exceptions, I see you out there on FB being a shitty person, and I'm blocking you without discussion, that will simply not be a space where we interact.
 
domin8brix said:


I am atheist so if I start talking about bible verses I've been possessed by some demon.

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""And I will execute great vengeance upon them with furious rebukes; and they shall know that I am the Lord, when I shall lay my vengeance upon them". The famous monologue recited by Jules Winnfield (Samuel L. Jackson) in Pulp Fiction is a modified, largely fabricated version of Ezekiel 25:17 blended with other biblical phrases.
 
domin8brix said:


This is 1000% bang on. They felt superior to their fat friend, and now that the fat friend isn't so fat, their insecurities are running wild. They dump on the person, sabotage the person, anything they can come up with to do anything to derail or minimize the other person so they can regain that power dynamic. It's also how you know they were never really your friend, it was an arrangement that they benefited from.

I triple dog dare anyone to do that shit to me, I will light their world on fire.

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I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.

That was effectively the end of our friendship.

wykyk
 
randompersonrandom said:


I honestly really love Facebook; it lets me sort of keep myself available to so many people I genuinely like and show what I'm working on or what neat things I saw, and keeps me up to date on what's going on WITH people I genuinely like. The trick for me has been to use it ONLY for those things. And with a very few exceptions, I see you out there on FB being a shitty person, and I'm blocking you without discussion, that will simply not be a space where we interact.

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The ones that drive me nuts are the ones who post were they're are and what they're eating. My DIL, who I love is one of those.
 
BNLFL said:


The ones that drive me nuts are the ones who post were they're are and what they're eating. My DIL, who I love is one of those.

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I'd cut my tongue out before I commented "For goodness sake, if you don't have anything to say, why not go do something else?" because everybody gets to have their own space and nobody needs me in there mouthing off just because I'm a middle aged woman and therefore DEEPLY convinced that I must. But I'm not gonna lie, I THINK it every time I see that!
 
desinr-gal said:


I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.

That was effectively the end of our friendship.

wykyk

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Shows how little they value you and the friendship when they don't have that feeling of superiority anymore!
 
domin8brix said:


Shows how little they value you and the friendship when they don't have that feeling of superiority anymore!

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Yes exactly.. I am wondering who will drop out now, given the weightloss, and sobriety..

I already have a friendship on the rocks over an upset in perceived superiority related to intelligence. We started playing Mahjong together and I am doing quite well at it, which seems to make her very tense, and often unpleasant. I realized that though we have played games together before; I was always the one learning a game that she already knew. So she was always superior in that way.

I have begun really reassessing my friendships.
 
desinr-gal said:


Yes exactly.. I am wondering who will drop out now, given the weightloss, and sobriety..

I already have a friendship on the rocks over an upset in perceived superiority related to intelligence. We started playing Mahjong together and I am doing quite well at it, which seems to make her very tense, and often unpleasant. I realized that though we have played games together before; I was always the one learning a game that she already knew. So she was always superior in that way.

I have begun really reassessing my friendships.

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She reminds me of my ex and his “friend”. They loved being the one introducing someone to a new game and then beating them repeatedly. My ex used to study the game after being beaten that first time and go back and stomp the friend and come back so happy
 
domin8brix said:


My ex used to study the game after being beaten that first time and go back and stomp the friend and come back so happy

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So your ex was a man, huh? Okay. I dont know if I could pick a more quintessentially manly thing off the top of my head [I can, but it's very close.]
 
Btw, you guys have now made me wonder what would happen after I changed. I don't have too many close friends, and I prefer it that way, but I already had a mild experience akin to what you guys underwent, when I went to my 20 year reunion in 2025. If things go the way I plan, the 30 year one may be calamitous.
 
desinr-gal said:


I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.

That was effectively the end of our friendship.

wykyk

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This is soooo shitty! Wow how people show their true colors.

She must have been so insecure that she used the bigger you as a way to feel better about herself. She was never your friend!

I am still amazed to what extent people go to shame people that are overweight just so they feel better about themselves.

I recently quit contact with an acquitance (not a friend) I partied with that is a real gymrat and likes to let everybody around her know she doesn't eat carbs and that she is very attractive and thin. Yes she really says that outloud and in the mirror at parties when she is drunk/elevated.

She only wants to party with me so she looks very thin next to me.

When she talked shit about her sister (my best friend) for gaining weight I quit hanging out with her.

I find it unbelievable that people need to comment on other people's weight.
 
desinr-gal said:


I went through a dramatic weightloss during college, dumped the freshman 15 and more, and my thin"BFF" came to visit me. when she saw me and then found out we weighed the same, she became very angry at me. She had me weigh myself in front of her to prove it. and then abruptly made an excuse; left and went home, even though she was supposed to stay the weekend.

That was effectively the end of our friendship.

wykyk

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Can you imagine acting THAT out of pocket, and nothing in your head triggers to consider that you're being weird and petty in front of someone and making it their problem? Neither I nor many of my friends are immune to petty jealousy, we're not angels and don't try to be, but if one of us is having a petty meltdown we would like, loudly disclose it with something like "OH MY GOD YOU SKINNY BITCH I WAS ALWAYS THE SKINNY ONE AND NOW I'M NOT AND I AM NOT OK RIGHT NOW, HOW DARE YOUUUUUU" so that at least someone can get some amusement out of our petty-bitchness and not feel like they have to manage it. (and so the petty-bitch sufferer can remind herself that feelings are ok but let's feel them, acknowledge them, laugh at them, and not let them make us act up to other people.)

I would be so embarrassed to go wilding in front of someone like that with no mitigating acknowledgement.
 
Smiter said:


So your ex was a man, huh? Okay. I dont know if I could pick a more quintessentially manly thing off the top of my head [I can, but it's very close.]

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Biologically, yes. But a giant piece of crap when it gets down to it. His mom knew what a nightmare he made my life, and her blessing was the reason I finally left. I am still close to her.

Smiter said:


Btw, you guys have now made me wonder what would happen after I changed. I don't have too many close friends, and I prefer it that way, but I already had a mild experience akin to what you guys underwent, when I went to my 20 year reunion in 2025. If things go the way I plan, the 30 year one may be calamitous.

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My 30th is this year, though I haven't attended a single one and have zero plans to change that. I got bullied relentlessly, and any friends I still have from that era went to the other high school in our district (they lived literally across the street but that was the dividing line for the bus routes and it was so f'ing stupid that they were geographically half a mile from my school, and 4 miles from theirs.)

BNLFL said:


Well, she's a female...

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That I sure am! My personality apparently leans very masculine, so I suspect most people assume I am a guy. I work with almost all guys, and have been in generally male industries most of my working life, and most of my friends are gay men.
 
Honestly, I haven't told anyone, and you're just better off keeping it a secret because then people think you're cheating when it's really just a tool to help you lose weight because you still have to be dialed in with macros, calories, and protein, and working out. People just think GLP1s is magic where you take it and you keep up your old habits and miraculously lose weight when in reality, it just helps you with your goal, and that's just really it since it cuts out all the food noise and suppression. You are still actively managing your calorie control, so a lot of people think it's cheating because it's just some background thing when in reality, it's like more of an active thing that you chose to do, and now you're thinking a lot about calories in general. So whenever someone asks or says something like, Have you lost weight? or you're looking good or something, just be like, yeah, I'm just hitting the gym more, and that's about it because that's the most normal answer, and no one's gonna judge you for saying you started lifting weights or started doing the stairmaster. I just feel like it's good not to tell anyone and just have them see the results.
 
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