desinr-gal
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Funnily enough, it is my exercise-obsessed thin friend who told me I should STOP losing weight. Im still bigger than she is..
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Yep! I have had similar experiences. I always find myself wondering if they are sincere or being backhanded.desinr-gal said:
Funnily enough, it is my exercise-obsessed thin friend who told me I should STOP losing weight. Im still bigger than she is..
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I think people base how they see themselves as compared to those around them. When one of the others in their group changes, it alters their perception of themselves. If that change is an improvement then their own status seems lowered in comparison. It can be interpreted as intentional and therefore is an offense. Thus they lash out. The fat friend who made them feel good is no longer fat..now they feel left behind?redsaint said:
When I was 300~ pounds at 16 years old, I began the keto diet. I did all my own food shopping, stored my groceries in my room, cooked everything for myself. I got shit for it ALL the time from friends and family for refusing to eat snacks / pizza / takeout / carb meals. They would rather have seen me continue to be 300+ pounds as a teenager than take responsibility for my own health.
10+ years later, had the same thing happen again at work after starting up my peptide journey. A few coworkers were discussing Semaglutide they got from a med spa. I chimed in to let them know about compounding pharmacies, which were way cheaper than medspas, and told them that's where I got Tirz which was more effective than Sema, and what I was currently using. Right away they jumped to "you're not even fat, you don't need it, just go to the gym, yada yada yada". I was around 200lbs at the time - now I'm 160 and look and feel way better, and my bloodwork is night and day.
People don't always want the best for you, not even close friends or family. Human beings are selfish, and you improving yourself is more competition for others, in one way or another.
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In the capital of the EU and NATO, you don't say.Throwfa said:
I'm very vocal about my peptide use. I actively seek out conversations to educate people about its specifics but limit the conversation to prescription peptides--never greys.
I did help my partner, brother and his wife in starting with greys, but that's as far as I go. I have zero intentions of becoming the family "dealer", only for them to start talking about it to friends and things spinning out of control. non-regulated pharmaseuticals are really frowned upon here.
Though, I wish I could help more people with the knowledge I have.
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Omg this… even said to my partner he looked ill from losing so much weight. Like honey he’s still overweight calm down.desinr-gal said:
Funnily enough, it is my exercise-obsessed thin friend who told me I should STOP losing weight. Im still bigger than she is..
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Not that uncommon tbh, it's quite easy to assume everyone has the same resources to deal with certain things, so some people instantly think that if you're not powering through something that they can power through... yeah, it's just lack of motivation, being lazy, etc. I went through the same kind of judgment when i couldn't lose weight back in the day, and it turns out i had thyroid issues (amongst many other issues that i'm using peps for). Still waiting for the "lazy f**k" comments apologies decades later, lol.Atlanatpr said:
My family really judged me, telling me I just needed to power through it and find more motivation and grit.
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I call it assbook, and have never had a FB account. My wife does and she used it to stay in touch with family. She has 6 siblings all over the US. She hasn't been on in since she retired a year or so ago. Now they group chat on the phone. They had me in there, but made them take me off. Damn phone would go off constant when they started going.randompersonrandom said:
YOU GUYS!! I think my aunt is nerving herself up to say something snotty about my weight loss on Facebook. She is STAUNCHLY anti-GLP1.
She posted a question that doesn't look even slightly good-faith on a "happy I'm almost done" post of mine on Facebook. I posted a cheerful, unapologetic reply reiterating how grateful I am that tirzepatide was invented. And now we wait.
I doubt she'd be dumb enough to take it the one step further and SAY the snotty thing, I've spent thirty-five years establishing to my father's vultures (sisters) that they'll be less embarrassed and hurt if they play with each other and NEVER with me. But oh I can feel her wanting to.
(One of the vultures is blocked on Facebook, because she has a nasty habit of giving sanctimonious and unsolicited advice, and ignored the one warning she ever received because I don't chew my food twice. One is not on social media. The third, this one, is not blocked because I love her daughter and would rather not cause her pain, so her dreadful mother remains, but she had better mind her manners.)
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This is why I hate group chats. Even for the ones that are just meant to organize a get together or something. My phone blowing up because everyone feels like they have to respond to every text, even if it's just to say, "ok" or "BNLFL said:
Now they group chat on the phone. They had me in there, but made them take me off. Damn phone would go off constant when they started going.
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This is 1000% bang on. They felt superior to their fat friend, and now that the fat friend isn't so fat, their insecurities are running wild. They dump on the person, sabotage the person, anything they can come up with to do anything to derail or minimize the other person so they can regain that power dynamic. It's also how you know they were never really your friend, it was an arrangement that they benefited from.desinr-gal said:
I think people base how they see themselves as compared to those around them. When one of the others in their group changes, it alters their perception of themselves. If that change is an improvement then their own status seems lowered in comparison. It can be interpreted as intentional and therefore is an offense. Thus they lash out. The fat friend who made them feel good is no longer fat..now they feel left behind?
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I triple dog dare anyone to do that shit to me, I will light their world on fire.randompersonrandom said:
YOU GUYS!! I think my aunt is nerving herself up to say something snotty about my weight loss on Facebook. She is STAUNCHLY anti-GLP1.
She posted a question that doesn't look even slightly good-faith on a "happy I'm almost done" post of mine on Facebook. I posted a cheerful, unapologetic reply reiterating how grateful I am that tirzepatide was invented. And now we wait.
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I don't think it has to mean they were never your friend. People are complex and multifaceted. They can be your friend and feel better about themselves because of how you look.domin8brix said:
It's also how you know they were never really your friend, it was an arrangement that they benefited from.
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randompersonrandom said:
YOU GUYS!! I think my aunt is nerving herself up to say something snotty about my weight loss on Facebook. She is STAUNCHLY anti-GLP1.
She posted a question that doesn't look even slightly good-faith on a "happy I'm almost done" post of mine on Facebook. I posted a cheerful, unapologetic reply reiterating how grateful I am that tirzepatide was invented. And now we wait.
I doubt she'd be dumb enough to take it the one step further and SAY the snotty thing, I've spent thirty-five years establishing to my father's vultures (sisters) that they'll be less embarrassed and hurt if they play with each other and NEVER with me. But oh I can feel her wanting to.
(One of the vultures is blocked on Facebook, because she has a nasty habit of giving sanctimonious and unsolicited advice, and ignored the one warning she ever received because I don't chew my food twice. One is not on social media. The third, this one, is not blocked because I love her daughter and would rather not cause her pain, so her dreadful mother remains, but she had better mind her manners.)
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This is one of the ultimate truths of life. Power is the chief tool driving self-actualization.domin8brix said:
so they can regain that power dynamic
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vultures be scavenging. Necromancy is an addiction.
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domin8brix said:
I triple dog dare anyone to do that shit to me, I will light their world on fire.
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Absolutely. Hopefully she swallows it and never comes back around with it.randompersonrandom said:
She must have sobered up or gone to bed. WISE CHOICE.
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